In a message dated 12/23/2010
11:48:56 A.M. Pacific Standard Time, a young man writes:
"There is a phrase i am interested in learning, one which if you knew more of
the "back story" would probably bring a smile. I have been visiting your site in
an effort to educate myself and i hope i am learning. I have met an incredible
woman who's Father is deaf, her mother was also deaf. She hears fine but growing
up with deaf parents is fluent in sign. So yes i could learn this phrase from
her but i would like to be able to surprise her.
If you could or would .... will you help me to understand how to ask her Father
the following..... Would you mind if i marry your daughter?
Thank you for your time, best wishes to you and your family for a very merry
Christmas.
Sincerly
J Landis
Dear "J,"
While some ASL teachers may feel that you should sign: "YOUR DAUGHTER, I MARRY
SHE, don't-MIND YOU?" -- My advice to you as a currently non-signing "Hearing"
person, is to sign: "DON'T-MIND I MARRY YOUR DAUGHTER?" (That will be
relatively easy for you to keep straight.) Just remember to raise your eyebrows
on the do you mind" part.
Or you could sign "I want marry your daughter. You
mind?"